A Sexologist’s Guide to Food Play

Written by Alice Child, Somatic Sexologist

Somatic Sexologist Alice Child explains why introducing food in the bedroom can be so erotic, and gives her top food play tips and ideas!

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This guide contains general advice only. If you need more tailored advice, please book in a session.

"Take it up a notch by kissing liquids into each other’s mouths. It works beautifully with wine, whiskey, juice, ice, or even a spoonful of ice cream"

So why food?

If you haven’t dabbled in food play yet, don’t knock it till you’ve tried it! It's more than just adding whipped cream to the bedroom; it’s a full-body, multi-sensory, kinky experience that can heighten pleasure in ways you never imagined.

Here’s why food play might be the secret ingredient to you having hot & steamy sex with your partner:

• Builds anticipation – the perfect slow burn.

• Awakens all 5 senses – indulge in every sensation.

• Increases sensitivity – every touch and taste amplified.

• Energises the mouth as an erogenous zone – bring a whole new level of intimacy.

• Gets you fully into your body – embrace the moment.

• Adds playfulness and fun – because pleasure should never be routine and boring.

• Boosts desire and arousal – let the excitement build.

• Gets you wet & messy – in the best, most fun way possible!

It’s about immersing yourself fully in the experience, blending taste with touch, and exploring intimacy in a fresh, exciting way.

What is food play?

Food play is any erotic encounter where food joins the fun! It can range from slow, sensual moments to fabulously messy experiences, making it a versatile and exciting addition to your intimate moments.

Incorporating food is a wonderful way to amplify sensuality, intimacy, and erotic energy. By introducing different tastes and textures, you're awakening yet another sense and sexual fantasy, making the experience even more playful and indulgent. It's about sparking the full joy of pleasure and creativity in a way that’s as delicious as it is fun.

Forget “American Pie”—here’s a guide to making food play absolutely mouthwatering!

Choose your flavour

Food play can take many forms, so start by picking the mood or vibe you want to create. Here are some delicious ideas to spark your imagination:

• Sensual Eating – Keep it simple but tantalizing. On your next date night, feed each other fruit or chocolate, savoring every taste, texture, and temperature. Let your senses—and your arousal—come alive with each bite.

  
  

• Blindfolded Sensual Eating – This is like sensation play for your taste buds! Set up a table with a variety of foods and drinks, each with different flavors, temperatures, and textures. Then, with a blindfold on, feed your partner using your hands, fingers, or even your lips. The blindfold heightens intensity and amplifies pleasure. (Bonus: It’s one of the games in Pillow Play!)

  
  

• Whiskey Kisses – Take it up a notch by playing Game 14 in Pillow Play (my online sex and intimacy games for couples!). Its called 'Whiskey Kisses' and involves kissing liquids into each other’s mouths. It works beautifully with wine, whiskey, juice, ice, or even a spoonful of ice cream. A little chill, a little warmth—it's a kiss like no other!

• Whole Body Feast – Ready to get fully immersed? Lay down a splash blanket and dive into exploring each other's bodies. Lick juices off their skin, suck honey from their fingers, nipples, or erogenous zones, and devour every inch with your senses. It’s indulgence in its purest form!

  
  

• Ultimate Self-Pleasure – In 2023, a viral trend took self-pleasure to the next level: enjoying decadent foods like chocolate while masturbating. It’s the ultimate combination of indulgence, blending taste and touch for an experience that’s all about you.

  
  

• Sploshing – If you’re into messy fun, wet and messy play (WAM), or sploshing, might be your thing. This kink revolves around getting aroused by being completely covered in food. The messier, the better! Think sitting on cakes, bathing in whipped cream—let your imagination run wild!

Turn up the heat

To really spice things up, focus on three key elements: teasing with anticipation, varying your choices, and embracing a playful mess. Here’s how to turn up the excitement with each approach:

• Tease – Slow things down and savor the build-up. Bring the food close to their mouth to tantalize their sense of smell, then linger it on their lips to tease and awaken their sense of touch. Let it slowly enter their mouth, building anticipation and creating that delicious sense of longing.

  
  

• Variety – Be intentional with your choices. Will the next bite be sweet or savory? Cold or warm? Maybe a drink this time? Take it up a notch by kissing liquids into your partner’s mouth—sip something small and pass it to them through a deep, sensual kiss.

  
  

• Play – Don’t be afraid to get a little messy! Stickiness and splashes only add to the fun, making things playful and spontaneous. Sometimes, the messier, the better!

Layer food play with other aspects of sex

Enhance your food play with three styles: sensory immersion, connection, and role expression. Each adds a unique layer of excitement for having great sex in your relationship. Here's how to explore them:

• Trance (having sex to feel) – Close your eyes and fully immerse yourself in the sensations. Focus on what you can smell, taste, hear, and feel as you enjoy each bite, letting the experience become a sensory journey.

  
  

• Partner Connect (having sex to connect) – Stay present and intentional with how you select and share the foods. Feed and kiss them while maintaining eye contact, deepening your connection and sexual attraction with every glance and touch.

  
  

• Role (having sex to express yourself) – Embrace different roles to add flavor to the experience. Will you be playful, dominant, submissive, sensual, flirty, naughty, or romantic? Let your creativity and kinkiness run wild as you explore these dynamics!

And most importantly, always communicate with your partner and figure out what works for both of you—because nothing keeps the spark alive like being open, honest, and in sync with each other.

Best,

Alice x

Alice Child - Somatic Sexologist, Sex Therapy & Sex Counsellor - helps people achieve happier and healthier sex lives through 1:1 sex coaching, couples sex counselling, hens parties, and workshops. Book a session here.